You know how you associate certain days with memories? Yeah my first heartbreak was on Valetines Day when I was 15. I love the fact that I can laugh hysterically about it now but let me assure you, I was not laughing back then. There’s such
a hype about this day and I think for good reason. Everyone deserves to feel
loved and adored. Everyone desires that continuously so on the one day that is
designed specifically for just that, you of course expect it. However, that was
not the case for me in tenth grade nor is it the case for many people every
year on this holiday. I mean lets be real-Who doesn’t love heart shaped candy,
lots and lots of chocolate, when red is your favorite color like me you are
just set up for a great day. I guess what I’m getting at is that because of
this hype and because of the pressure that comes along with Valentines Day,
people get let down really easily. Valentines day is simply an excuse to tell
people you love them or to take your most special person out on the town.
Whatever. But don’t let the excuse turn into the reason. Valentine’s day is not
a reason to love someone. You should do that every day. And I feel extra loved
this year because I think of my high school puppy love heartbreak and remember
that God loves us too much to keep us the same. I will tell you one thing- I am more than ever thankful for the friends who have known me from day one. They can tell you how different I am and PTL for that -for my own sanity and for the rest of the world’s as well. There will be many heartbreaks, we see them
every day. But as time goes on, we deal with them just as differently as we have become. Just today I saw a woman through my review mirror crying behind the
wheel and it took everything in me to not get out of my car and jump in hers to
give her hug- but that would have given her a heart attack on top of her heart
break. So I stayed put. But I wanted to tell her that things get better. Because they always do. That’s
the beauty of it.
How beautiful it is
that God didn’t design our hearts to be alone. So if this year is another "single-awareness day"for you, take it for what it is because
for right now it is still special and there will be many years to come when it's shared with someone. Yes, God created us
to spend our lives with someone and I love that about Him. And I also love that
he gives us the exact people we need in our lives at the right time. He’s
pretty good at that. Like I said, I am so thankful for those who have been by
my side since day one and that they know me better than I think I know myself. But I
am also so thankful for the ones that he scattered into my life along the way.
In the past few weeks, I have had friends show up. And that’s the best thing
they could have done. I have had friends cry with me in parking lots, words
sent to me that only they knew would mend, phone calls answered within one ring, and hugs that lasted just a few
seconds longer than usual. I think that is what God meant when he said he
didn’t create us to be alone. Of course it’s meant in the relationship stance
too, but in the grand scheme of our lives, it moves out much broader into a
large scope of relationships. And I think I hit the jackpot.
All of this to say- don’t let today be the reason you tell
someone you love them but yet let it be another excuse of the many MANY times we
should say it day in and day out. Girls, go put on you red lipstick and guys-
go pick up the flowers and have the best night. If you’re single-lets party,
and if you’re taken, I am you’re biggest fan and am the first one to want all
the details. Just promise me you’ll take the rest of what is today and cherish
those who love you. And who you love right back.Remind them to accept the grace we don’t deserve. It gets harder as time goes on and reminders turn into healing. Offer to help carry some loads because its too heavy to do alone. Tell them how they mold and
shape you and what it is that you love about them. Everyone deserves to know, but
we rarely say it.
And while you're at it, don't just tell God you love him, but tell him why. He deserves to hear it, too.
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